Love languages

Gary Chapman's framework proposes that people experience love most clearly through one of five primary 'languages': words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. Most people give love in their own native language and feel loved when received in theirs — and a lot of relational friction comes from one person fluently speaking a language the other person doesn't read.

It is not a science. It is a useful model. Pair it with your sun sign and you'll often see why a Cancer feels seen by a long phone call while a Capricorn feels seen by a bill paid without being asked.